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12月19日 Superb Christmas cardEli made this Christmas card for us, super funny, especially for us who know and work with these people the whole time. If you see this post, do not miss it =).
The Christmas card link is: http://www.elfyourself.com/?id=1573102850
Have fun, and Merry Christmas everybody, Merry Christmas!
10月29日 just for fun, could be more:)1）Money is not everything. There's Mastercard & Visa. 2）One should love animals. They are so tasty. 3）Save water. Shower with your girlfriend. 4）Love the neighbor. But don't get caught. 5）Behind every successful man, there is a woman. And behind every unsuccessful man, there are two. 6）Every man should marry. After all, happiness is not the only thing in life. 7）The wise never marry, And when they marry they become otherwise. 8）Success is a relative term. It brings so many relatives. 9）Never put off the work till tomorrow what you can put off today. 10月17日 woman's dark sideWhen i was reading dingdang76's <don't look back>, i felt a kind of resonance. But first i think i should declare that all i bla bla here is only my personal understanding. The title regards to WOMAN just because i am a woman and i believe my opinion can represent a group of women. Please just take the following words as ENTERTAINMENT and u r more than welcome to discuss on what i'm saying here. " When you can’t love him any more, Please don’t pretend to make up for your giving up with your care. Because in his eyes there is still waiting for hopes Which you can’t give him yet. When you have decided to leave him, Please don’t hypocritically heal his sadness with your unwanted sympathy. Because your careless hesitation will bring him even more sorrows, And put out the flames of his hopes. When he has learnt to forget you, Please don’t riot his tranquility with your loneliness. Because there is no longer any relationship between his life and you. When they are obsessed with mutual company Please don’t try to find out how they are getting along. Because you have left him alone, When he needed you most. " Dingdang's article actually shows the soft side of woman, we don't want to make anybody sad, we always want to comfort the person who cares about us, even if sometimes our good intention ends up to hurt the person we want to console. I can't be agree more with dingdang's opinions, but when i'm really dealing with this kind of things, all i thought or did is probably the opposite. Everybody cherishes other person's attention, especially when the attention comes from the opposite sex and turns out to be love. Woman fulfills her value by other people's respect and love. When we decide to split with a guy who loves us, of course we feel sorry for him and probably some guilt. So we want to comfort them, want to make them back as happy as before. But deep inside of ourselves, we can't deny that we still want to keep contact with them also because we need their attention, as much as possible. One side, we want him to go through the bad time quickly, get rid of our relationship's happiness and sorrow, find his deserved love; another side, we would be happy if he can't stop loving us, we would be disappointed if he stops looking at us tenderly and hugs another girl. We are the perfect creature with this distinct contrariness. I read a Chinese story before, i would like to briefly repeat it here. There was a man(let's call him M) in love with a woman(W), however W didn't love him. Even if she told him she can never in love with him, M was always around her, playing her best friend, taking care of her and showing her his endless love. Their relation seems like would be lasting like this forever. Finally, one day, M come to W and say: i might in love with another girl(G), i want to be with her, you two's personalities are extremely alike, could you give me some advice as my best friend? W said: sure i will, u are my best friend, i hope u would be happy. After that M followed W's suggestions, everything goes very well, G seems like was opening heart to M. Another day, M go to W and say: I have a problem, G told me there is another guy who made proposal to G, G said she needs some time to make the decision. I'm sure there is something between G and I, I hope she can choose me. But now my company wants me to go to pairs for 3 months for business, should i go and leave space for G or stay here take care of G? W said: i think u should go, all G needs right now is time and space. If u push too hard now, probably she will get more confused and make wrong decision. After u left, she will find out how much she needs u, then u will be the winner. M followed W's suggestion. 3 month later, M came back and find out that G had already been with the other guy. M went to W and ask: u know G so much, how could u make the wrong judgement? W: i knew she would leave u, even if she loved u, 3 month is far too long for a girl to wait for a man's "possible" proposal. M: why would u do that? W: u don't know woman's dark side, even if i don't love u, i was still enjoying ur arounding me and attention on me. >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> Forget about the story's logicality or if the woman will lose the man anyway. Of course, story is just a story, it always exaggerates the phenomenon. However, stories are also working as a microscope that makes us aware of the sides we can't clearly see in reality. Now, what i'm thinking reminds me what my father-in-law said about my lovely mother-in-law: a boy becomes a man when he understands women, that's why I would be a boy for my whole life time. |
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